Stress during the holidays exist for many families whether intact or not. For separated spouses and families that stress can be greatly intensified. So, be sure you prepare in advance. Make sure you have your support system in full force and get any appointments with professionals scheduled in advance. Choose your battles with your ex-spouse and/or children wisely. Plan your own budget for holiday spending and figure out how to add your own touches to this season. Take time for yourself. Pamper yourself. Remember that although this season may be different from prior ones, you will be ok.